Detect the fluent
Let us detect the fluent in which we swim.
:- Doug.

The holy, the wind, the spirit is more subtly flooding, yet how do we teach these to attend? How do we ourselves learn to attend?
:- Doug.
Just looked up the root of substantial and I like it: being, essence, material, reality, stand firm, be present. I am a substantial person. We each and all are substantial persons.
All those years I spent chasing becoming a substantial person in some monetary sense, and all along I was potentially a substantial person in the real sense.
:- Doug.
What is the contract you are entering (your willingness has no role) with the grandchildren? I will help you not at all—you have no part of me? I will help you see surfaces? I will help you hear subtlety? We will help one another live, relating?
:- Doug.